Getting comfortable with grappling

[watching]

I understand what you mean with it being awkward. I try to focus more on the technique and getting it right than the fact that there is someone way to close to me for comfort. It is usually awkward for both people involved. I have had my training partner, usually a much younger guy, back up and regroup, because he was uncomfortable as well.

I like your advice. I find it a bit easier to focus more on technique with other women. But grappling with the guys is overwhelmingly uncomfortable at times. And some of them probably weigh a good hundred pounds more than I do, it just makes me feel too vulnerable to be in a grappling situation with someone that size.

 

[drop bear]

I like your advice. I find it a bit easier to focus more on technique with other women. But grappling with the guys is overwhelmingly uncomfortable at times. And some of them probably weigh a good hundred pounds more than I do, it just makes me feel too vulnerable to be in a grappling situation with someone that size.

Yep. That is a real thing. My last competition was the infinity weight class. And there were some guys pretty close to that.

Good structure. And forehead in face.

 

[Deafdude#5]

If you are truly uncomfortable then ask your instructor to only pair you up with female partners. This way you can focus on this skills & techniques until such time that you’re ready to progress to the next level.

 

[frank raud]

I like your advice. I find it a bit easier to focus more on technique with other women. But grappling with the guys is overwhelmingly uncomfortable at times. And some of them probably weigh a good hundred pounds more than I do, it just makes me feel too vulnerable to be in a grappling situation with someone that size.

" And some of them probably weigh a good hundred pounds more than I do, it just makes me feel too vulnerable to be in a grappling situation with someone that size." Excellent point, but it is also unfortunately a realistic situation. As grappling is an area where strength is not as important as it is in striking, learning how to grapple will help you in self defense situations.
By the way, although I am male and 220lbs, I can relate. I often get paired up with the 6'4 320 lb ex football player or powerlifter.

 

[watching]

Yep. That is a real thing. My last competition was the infinity weight class. And there were some guys pretty close to that.

Good structure. And forehead in face.

View attachment 21537

is that you?

 

[Deafdude#5]

Yep, I can relate to that. Older male, 6’-0” tall & 190 lbs. I also get stuck with the big boys as in over 200lbs. It sucks but it’s good training.

 

[Deafdude#5]

Yep. That is a real thing. My last competition was the infinity weight class. And there were some guys pretty close to that.

Good structure. And forehead in face.

View attachment 21537

Good three points of contact.

 

[drop bear]

is that you?

On the right.

 

[drop bear]

 

[Rice Nachos]

A few words from a book I own (Jiu-Jitsu University):

Everyone has fears, and every beginning jiu-jitsu practitioner at every academy will be accompanied by those fears when first stepping onto the mats. It may be the nightmare of claustrophobia, pain, or suffocation. In each situation, the student defeats these fears by facing them over and over again. At any moment, the student can tap to signal an end to the fight and start again and give it another try, over time he gradually liberates himself from the cycle of fear. This is a natural process of mental conditioning and it is the law for every student. Through this evolution, the grappler not only overcomes fear but also the instinctive tendencies to fight and waste energy. In place of his fear he develops confidence, fortitude, and peace in stressful times. In other words, he liberates himself from insecurity.

 

[watching]

View attachment 21538

lol Jilian Michaels tells me the same thing in her yoga workout DVD

 

[drop bear]

lol Jilian Michaels tells me the same thing in her yoga workout DVD

Yoga is just a war.

 

[JR 137]

Yoga is just a war.

Wrestling and bare knuckle karate were FAR easier than yoga. And far less painful.