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This is kind of a vent, kind of a rant, maybe a bit of an "AITA" type of a post.
We've got a guy at my gym that goes pretty rough. Yesterday I finally had enough of his crap, tapped mid-roll and walked away. Told Professor I'm not rolling with him anymore. The final straw was when (after he had elbowed me in the face and kneed me in the back of the head), he said, "Quit complaining, nobody else complains, it's only you, you're just mad you're getting beat by a white belt."
Plenty of white belts beat me, but none of them regularly hit me in the head. But it did kind of stick with me that he's kind of correct. If I could smash him, I wouldn't be complaining.
But I don't think that's a flaw on my part, but maybe a part of how BJJ works. Each person in a roll needs to be controlled. Ideally, both folks will control themselves, so as not to injure their training partner. If you're not in control of yourself, then in order for it to be a safe roll, the other person needs to be in control of you. So yes, I did complain because I can't beat him. But I don't I'm the one with the problem.
We've got a guy at my gym that goes pretty rough. Yesterday I finally had enough of his crap, tapped mid-roll and walked away. Told Professor I'm not rolling with him anymore. The final straw was when (after he had elbowed me in the face and kneed me in the back of the head), he said, "Quit complaining, nobody else complains, it's only you, you're just mad you're getting beat by a white belt."
Plenty of white belts beat me, but none of them regularly hit me in the head. But it did kind of stick with me that he's kind of correct. If I could smash him, I wouldn't be complaining.
But I don't think that's a flaw on my part, but maybe a part of how BJJ works. Each person in a roll needs to be controlled. Ideally, both folks will control themselves, so as not to injure their training partner. If you're not in control of yourself, then in order for it to be a safe roll, the other person needs to be in control of you. So yes, I did complain because I can't beat him. But I don't I'm the one with the problem.