After my mega-seminar on 11/21 in Camas, Washington, I delivered a self-defense seminar to a troop of 10 attending girls the following Monday. I always ask for feedback from anyone and everyone attending.
Well ... I got some today.
It seems a parent who arrived at the very last few minutes of the seminar (and who missed the practicum entirely) heard me tell the 10-year-old girls about not showering after an assault.
Now ... some perspective: one of the girls (there is always one) who asked, essentially, what do you do if nothing works and you get hurt and he just leaves you?
I replied that the first urge most people have is to shower or bathe and that the police don't want you to, that it's important to get to a hospital immediately, before cleaning up at all to preserve evidence.
Note that I did not instruct the girls that douching, shaving, waxing, scrubbing, taking care to clean every crevice of the vulva is not okay, nor did I state that DNA would be in them and on them in the forms of sperm, skin tags on pubic hairs and epithelial cells.
The question was asked. This fear was given voice and I count on it happening at every seminar - which it always does.
I'm not ready to string up Dad and inject doubt to condemn him as a bad father or even potential abuser, nor am I about to change my seminar over this guy's concerns. I hope to clear up with the parents (if I can) what exactly disturbed them about their daughters getting this piece of information. Could it really be that he is ignorant of this fact?
More importantly, I really posted this here to give voice to a sometimes overlooked tidbit of information vital to the hopeful capture and possible conviction of the scum who commit these crimes.
Your thoughts, please.
Well ... I got some today.
It seems a parent who arrived at the very last few minutes of the seminar (and who missed the practicum entirely) heard me tell the 10-year-old girls about not showering after an assault.
Now ... some perspective: one of the girls (there is always one) who asked, essentially, what do you do if nothing works and you get hurt and he just leaves you?
I replied that the first urge most people have is to shower or bathe and that the police don't want you to, that it's important to get to a hospital immediately, before cleaning up at all to preserve evidence.
Note that I did not instruct the girls that douching, shaving, waxing, scrubbing, taking care to clean every crevice of the vulva is not okay, nor did I state that DNA would be in them and on them in the forms of sperm, skin tags on pubic hairs and epithelial cells.
The question was asked. This fear was given voice and I count on it happening at every seminar - which it always does.
I'm not ready to string up Dad and inject doubt to condemn him as a bad father or even potential abuser, nor am I about to change my seminar over this guy's concerns. I hope to clear up with the parents (if I can) what exactly disturbed them about their daughters getting this piece of information. Could it really be that he is ignorant of this fact?
More importantly, I really posted this here to give voice to a sometimes overlooked tidbit of information vital to the hopeful capture and possible conviction of the scum who commit these crimes.
Your thoughts, please.