Hello everyone, I dabbled a bit in martial arts as a kid. I recently decided to get back into it and found a dojo very close to my home and have trained there for a couple of months. They train in the exact style I have always wanted to study. The sensei is an accomplished athlete in the martial art. Unfortunately, I am not 100% happy for two reasons: 1. He seems apathetic and disinterested in teaching. I am often told to "follow along". He will leave students in charge of the class or put us on bag work while he does work in his back office semi-regularly. I have been shown a tiny amount technical stuff over a few months but not nearly as much as I have been at previous dojo. It seems that he is not that interested in teaching. A guest sensei recently took the class and it was so much better and different. Aside from the guest, the most I have ever been shown was from another student. 2. I am not gelling well with his personality. He doesn't show much interest in me as a student. He complains a lot about other people he engages with in daily life and is a bit aggressive. The thing that bothers me most however, is that every second lesson, he talks about fights he has been in over the last 30 years. They always end with him dominating the other person. He is in his 50s by the way. It makes me cringe. It's not all bad. He is a nice enough person and isn't a bully or anything like that. He has shown us some technical things. It's just that I've trained at previous dojo where you could feel the passion of the teachers. A previous sensei from another city, would go around the room and give pointers to each student every lesson. He was super positive and passionate. I guess in a way, I have a sensei who was the benchmark of what I want. The other thing is that this dojo is convenient. It's literally below my apartment, and training is late at night which makes it easy for me to come home and help my young kids get ready for bed, etc. So, I found another dojo that trains in the same style. I really want to check it out. The problem is that it a bit further away, and is held at a time that would mean I would have to go straight from work and wouldn't be home until late. It's not ideal, but, I would still go if it meant that I was happy. Both dojo offer kids classes. I want my girls to get involved in martial arts but it is very important that they have a teacher who is positive. I haven't seen my current teacher with his kids classes. I assume he's not highlighting fights from his youth! But, I keep remembering my old teacher who would be very motivating and a guide for life with both his kids and adults classes. I may never find someone as positive as the old sensei, but I'd like to find someone who is at least not negative and apathetic. Usually, I would just go and check out the classes at the other school. The thing is, my current sensei organizes all of the tournaments in my city, and works closely with this other school. I also train weapons with him. I worry that he will be sensitive and get annoyed that I go and check out the other place. Ideally, I'd like to try the other dojo for the empty hand combat, and keep training weapons with my current school (they are not offered at the other dojo). The fact that he teaches the same art though, might make him annoyed. Any ideas how to navigate this tricky situation? Thanks very much.