The ability to defend

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  1. MasterArtMason

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    I am not familiar with him. Available on Amazon?
     
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    I have had people, especially women either be a ball of fire, or fall apart totally at any kind of stress scenario. The ones who fell apart had always had something happen to them (assault rape etc). The fireballs were a mix of situations.
     
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    He has some commercially written books, yes. Some Papers too. And some stuff which is probably locked in a metal filing cabinet in the Pentagon and marked "Secret" for no good reason.

    Peace favor your sword,
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    Training to fight is not the same as training to do a technique. They are 2 separate things and requires 2 separate forms of training. Grappling systems are as close as you'll get to training how fight and training technique all at the same time.

    Some people are less intuitive when it comes to fighting so you have explain and train things that come natural to most. I knew a guy that didn't have the natural response to put his hands up to deflect a ball that was thrown at him. He also didn't have the natural response to get out of the way.
     
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    You touched on something that is very important; "The will to defend." Some people have it and others don't. We see it in animals as well. Some will fight back while others will do nothing at all to protect themselves. One would assume that everyone has the will to defend, but that isn't always the case.
     
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    This is worth remembering when we're talking about what it takes for someone to be trained. That answer is different by individual. What is easy, pre-developed, and/or natural to some, is entirely foreign and difficult to others.
     
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    And I think in most cases (not all, I think) we could call it a "threshold to defend". Some people will defend as soon as they feel threatened. Some as soon as it gets physical. Some only when it goes "too far" for them (which may be too late).
     
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    I like Dave Grossman's books.....but his seminars and lectures are where he really shines.
     
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    A lot of that can be experience. If a broken nose is past their previous experience they can start to panic.
     
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    Agreed. This is easy to see even with non-violent injuries. Most folks will respond relative to what they've experienced and/or observed in the past. Someone who has never had much more than bumps will react much worse to, say, a bad sprain or a minor break. Someone who has had breaks before is less likely to freak out over it. No guarantees of course, but some likelihood.
     
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    Easiest example is knee ride in BJJ Until they realise they won't actually die you can use it as a submission
     
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    Yeah. Man, I hate those when someone with skill does them. Or, in place of the skill, and extra 50 pounds will do.
     
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    I saw this all the time with rookies in college athletics. You’d get some hotshot high school guy coming in thinking he’s tough. Then he gets hit by an upperclassman. And he’s on the ground thinking he’s dying. By their second season, they’ve outgrown a lot of that.

    Or you’d have the hotshot freshman thinking he’s tough. He’s had his share of bumps and bruises. Then he sprains an ankle. I evaluate it and tell him it’s a sprain, put some compression on it, give him some ice, and maybe one crutch. Then he walks into the training room the next day in a walking boot with a note from a physician saying he’s got a sprained ankle and is out for 6-8 weeks. And the upperclassmen laugh and shake their heads and mutter “stupid rookie.” Then they do the same next season. The problem isn’t they’ve never been hurt before, the problem is they’ve never actually been injured.

    MA is the same way. Get hit bare knuckle in the stomach your first time, and you’re on the ground, clutching your stomach and can barely breathe. After a few times you realize how much you can actually take and keep going. You develop this, I don’t know, pride? You get sick of peeling yourself off the floor. And you develop a mental toughness that makes you keep going.

    Or you quit and tell your friends the dojo wasn’t tough enough or realistic enough, or you didn’t have time anymore :(

    Wrestling taught me to suck it up and keep working towards a pin. Bare knuckle karate reinforced the concept of keep going. Now that I’m 41, I don’t need that lesson anymore :)
     
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    One factor is a person's natural fight or flight tendency. A person may not know if they are a fighter or a flighter until they are in a situation (hopefully never.)
     
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    I’ve been in more “situations” than was really good for me and I have found righteous indignation all the motivation I need, lol.


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    Yeap...I say it often. Many don' know the difference between being uncomfortable and being in pain.
     

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