Hi, I'm new on here although I've been lurking for a while! I wanted to get some opinions on a situation I'm finding difficult. I do a martial art and as part of a special training course I'm doing we have to spar. I want to spar and want to learn to fight, the only thing is that sometimes we are told to go for it 100% and I'm mostly sparring with men. I'm relatively experienced in my MA but have done very little sparring and I'm being asked to fight with guys much bigger than me who have considerable fighting experience. So far I haven't been hurt much because the guys never go near 100% despite the instructor telling them to, but it does worry me. I also constantly feel like a failure because I rarely get near them to land blows since they're mostly a foot taller than me and I just don't know how to get close! Quite a few of the less experienced and smaller guys have been hurt in the class because they're up against bigger guys with 15-years of fights behind them (and these guys still aren't really going 100% - if they were they'd be breaking bones and knocking people out). It's abit of a macho culture and the instructor is all about being tough and says on the street you have to fight with who comes at you. While I realise that it just seems dangerous and not actually a very good way to learn. Am I just being a wuss? Anyone got any tips on how to deal with this/spar with guys much bigger?