That's a great point, and links to a certain degree with @Danny T 's list above. It's not just what kind of assault, what's involved, etc. It's also who and where. Sadly, having the basis for comparison, I can tell you the two assaults I had from total strangers scarred me far less than the period of molestation by a family member, which continued for several years. I had no qualms about fighting back violently against the drunk strangers. I was resistant but very reluctant to be violent against the family member - someone I grew up with, loved, and trusted. Not telling anyone about the assaults by strangers was easy. They were over. I didn't get raped. No need to worry the rest of the family. I know it sounds perverse, since I made these decision as a child of 10 and 13, but this was a very common mindset among us, Soviet kids - life was so profoundly horrid at times, upsetting your parents with something that happened to you was just not done. Not telling anyone about the molestation by family member was harder. It was someone we all interacted with constantly. And any word from me would have caused my parents and grandparents a lot of grief. I just couldn't do it. So.. I think, in addition to physical self-defense training, regardless of gender, there needs to be a psychological aspect. Assault is NEVER ok. By anyone. Toward anyone else, especially a child, or someone weaker. Period. Yes, speaking up is hard and terrifying - especially with so much stigma still associated with this. But speak up we must. Otherwise, nothing will ever change.