Good day, everyone, For about the last fifteen years, I've been an on-again, off-again martial artist due to a number of things that interfered with training as a teenager and in college (my education, my adolescent attitude, some non-martial arts related injuries and broken bones, and a very traumatic experience that left me pretty nervous and uncomfortable around men in general--the last piece is probably key). I'm a first dan, but I've been at this rank for the past 8 years because I have only trained for a few months during that time. I am in a tang soo do school that I really like now, and I see my technique improving in forms, one-steps, basics, etc. However, when it comes to sparring, I... suck. If I'm sparring with someone my rank or lower, I'm not too bad, but though I hate to admit it, I find myself feeling very self-conscious and severely lacking confidence, especially against men and males of higher rank. Logically, of course, I know they won't hurt me, but I still am horrible. I don't move quickly against them and I hang back. I find myself over-analyzing everything and thinking way too much. They tell me not to think and to just react... I know this is logical, but I seem to struggle anyway, especially when I see how good these guys are when they against other upper-rank men. I realize this probably sounds dumb, but I would really appreciate some supportive advice. I think I over-think sparring out of nervousness. Has anyone gone through anything similar? Does anyone have advice for improving my confidence or even some techniques/combinations that can help me start to improve, rather than staying in this stalemate with myself? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you!