Stalking is a very complicated issue, especially since there is a lot of variation in different states definition of "stalking." In Virginia, the stalker has to somehow put the victim in fear of sexual assault or other bodily harm, for example. Beyond that, the motivations for stalking are very complex. Some stalking behaviors (male or female) are just the result of being dense and socially inept. Others are literal rape situations. There's no easy advice; each case requires individual assessment and an individual response. In one case, all that may be needed is showing that you've moved on. In another, only incarceration will stop the behavior until the stalker shifts to a new victim. Things get even more complicated if a man is accusing a woman of stalking, because there is often a perception that men can't be the victim of an offense like this.