You wrote: But you previously wrote: Were you lying the first time or the second time? To answer your question, before my marriage, now going on 29 years, I dated girls that were fit, a couple that were too thin, and a couple that were overweight. No, I didn't hide them away. Any of them. Why not? Because I'm not a shallow, self-absorbed narcissist, among other things. You've only served to reinforce my original beliefs, that her weight gain is on your shoulders, because of your cruelty and mental abuse toward her, and your need to keep her hidden away to save yourself embarrassment. From dumbfounded to disgust. You just continue to go down in my estimation, and that in itself is impressive, considering how low you started.