Oprah featured this book on the tenth anniversary of its release, add I was really intrigued. It's not specifically MA-oriented, but the main thrust of the book is that we all have a hard-wired danger signal in our intuition. Intuition, quoth Gavin de Becker, can process information faster than the conscious mind can. This gives us extra time to prepare for the F&F. He says that predators tend to give specific signals that can tip one off - I'll expand on this for my own benefit to reinforce it in my mind: * Predator is very charming and engaging. * Predator gives too much information, more than is appropriate for the interaction. It indicates that s/he has a story to keep straight. * Predator creates a sense of alliance with the victim by using "we" early on in the interaction. * Predator manipulates the victim with something to prove - "I'll bet you're too much of a snob to talk to me." * Predator gives victim some kind of a freebie to incur a sense of obligation. * Predator makes unsolicited promises to victim. * Most blatantly, the predator is oblivious to the word "no." I was pleased to find that I knew most of these already and have been applying them for some time. (If anyone's curious, I'd be willing to share a couple war stories of disasters I've dodged. :wink1: After reading this book I'm feeling pretty pleased with myself.) De Becker goes through different types of violence depending on the perp's relationship to the victim in subsequent chapters - stalkers, domestic violence, workplace (including how to fire "problem" employees,) violent behavior in children, and assassins. He has a very engaging style, quite readable with lots of anecdotes. I've inhaled this book over the last few days. I'm thinking about getting my own copy, and maybe even donating a couple to my local domestic violence shelter. Has anyone else read this? I'd love to hear some comments.