My last husband's name was Chris Burt Jr. He made up his own art and called it Budoiki Ryu. He didn't bother working during our marriage, I spent lots of money (was making over 60,000/yr) on his training because he trained when he was in high school and he said it was 'the only thing he was good at', yet he'd never gotten a black belt during all these Taekwondo classes.
I met him at a gas station in 2002, he was living in a boarding house, didn't have a car, had lost his license to speeding tickets and half his front teeth were missing from a diet of soda and junk food. I don't know what I saw in him, really, I'd just got out of the military and he was the first persistent one I ran into. Right before the end of the marriage, in 2006, I paid to incorporate a business for him, Elite Martial Arts, Inc, in Florida. After the divorce, he ends up in his first REAL 'teaching' job at a school, but lying to the instructor there about his past experience. He starts dating private students, one of these students, he moves in with by 2007 and the eventually marry, as once he moves in with her, she pays the bills, so he is free to fill her head with lies about his background and she proceeds to pour money into his 'martial arts school' idea.
Now, from 2002 to June 2006 of the divorce, he got one black belt in the mail and wouldn't let me see the return address, but it had the name Hyamoto on it, apparently from his favorite video game hitman. He was also telling me he had ties to Yakuza, that he kills people (same story given to his first wife, and the wife after me and some girlfriends, only for the first wife it was just hitman, it evolved to Yakuza with me and evolved more with other tellings of it years later to other women). He earned his first real black belt at Grand Master Oh's in Pembroke Pines in either late 2005 or early 2006, after learning all the forms and quickly getting the belt (which 2 other Masters of the area, Master Sang and Master Alvarez, the one who taught him as a child, would not do in that short amount of time, he lied to Grand Master Oh about his prior training).
He just divorced his last wife, the one after me. I found out that a)he has been taking deductions for his schools but not reporting income, which is tax fraud. b) He has a resume that includes some japanese guy with the last name Hyamoto and a person named Phillip that he met after we moved from NC to Florida in late 2004 and he later took classes at Master Sang's where Phillip worked as an instructor. But his resume says this Phillip guy gave him a 2nd degree black belt in 2002? Uh, that's a lie. And some Japanese guy; are you kidding, he has no asian friends, he had no Japanese guy around him the ENTIRE time I knew him and lived with him (lived together Nov 2002 to June 2006) and until his last wife spent her life savings on moving him to Key West and helping him start his 2 schools (Big Pine and Key West), he'd never run a school by himself, he'd made up an art and his buddy helped him figure out how to register it. Using lies from his buddy Phillip and from Ebay scrolls and that black belt from the mail from 2004 (that he did NOTHING and no training to get, trust me, I was THERE right in his lazy life, he couldn't take his glasses back to the kitchen when he played video games all day and he treated my daughters like crap).
His website is Chris Burt http://www.budoikiryu.com His resume is a fairy tale; he even got an endorsement from some legitimate ninjitsu teacher (Anshu Christina Jacobson) who was obviously told a boatload of lies to have endorsed him. Can someone tell me how a person I picked up at a gas station who couldn't keep a job and who cheated on me and every woman he's with and seems to prey on married students at his school (one is pregnant by him, still married, the other he did and dumped, both were female instructors for him, both during his marriage to his last wife, as the divorce was final this month, March 2011); HOW CAN HE SUDDENLY BE A NINJA MASTER? How can he be a Master of any kind?
As far as I can see, there is no body to strip him of his lies, no organization that can shut down his schools for him lying about his training and background. His latest married girlfriend Kim, she broke her arm in black belt testing; she's been training with him for a year, and is now a black belt instructor, complete with broken arm. Is this normal? Can people just register with the right lies, make up Masters, get their friends to lie about belts they never got in a CYA maneuver? All I can say is that the IRS got Capone, they may be the only ones that can get him. NO income from over 40 students paying over 100/m at 2 school with low overhead? Any other masters out there with 40 or more students doing seminars and additional private training reporting to the IRS that their business has deductions but no income in this circumstance?
I post as I am, because I am telling the truth and have no reason to lie and nothing to gain financial from him, my marriage and his other marriage is over and no one will benefit from him being exposed but his students (and people that actually pay their taxes, I know as a tax payer I AM pissed he's done this since 2007 and said he made nothing).
For goodness sake, someone legitimate take a look at this....
This has been discussed before, see the following threads:
http://martialtalk.com/forum/showthread.php?t=74441 (Budoiki Ryu and Ninjutsu History [Was Fakes, Frauds and Conmen])
http://martialtalk.com/forum/showthread.php?t=74373 (Descendants of Fakes, Frauds and Conmen)
Both the above stem from the later wife (that Chris has just divorced?), who posted on here under the name Heissa. She attempted to educate us on Japanese history, martial arts, and so on, despite then only saying that she had a few months training (but her husband was the head of the art!). Frankly, she refused to listen to the reality of the situation.
And that's another part of the reality. You're correct in that there is no governing body to complain to about fraudulant, or misleading claims, mainly because if there was one, that would open up all the questions about who is qualified to make such a decision for other arts, and those who want to discredit their competition will use it to take each other down, so it would really be a rather negative thing in the end. Add to that the fact that some people just won't see the lies or issues with any claim, and just stuff their fingers in their ears crying "la la la la la!!!!" at the top of their lungs. So even by having our exposes here it doesn't stop him, it won't stop students (or new wives) listening to him and taking things on face value because "he said so", no matter how obvious it is to everyone else.
Yes, it's sad. But it's also reality.
For further reading, though, see the following threads:
http://martialtalk.com/forum/showthread.php?t=68079 (Question about Joining a Dojo) - start on page two, post 19.
http://martialtalk.com/forum/showthread.php?t=71752 (Age Rank and Knowledge) - Page 3 is where it gets interesting.
Er, no. "Anshu" Christa Jacobson is NOT a "legitimate ninjitsu teacher". She has had some legit training in the Bujinkan and then Stephen Hayes' Toshindo organisation, gaining low level Dan grades, but has since gone on to claim that she has inherrited a system known as Tomo Ryu, from a mysterious old Japanese man, with no records of this system whatsoever. She has been teaming up with a person by the name of Antony Cummins, another who has highly inflated his resume, and has been on a highly charged agenda against the Bujinkan (and related arts) for a year or so now, with no real understanding of anything he is discussing, and demonstrating no real interest in getting any.
For a "potted" history of him, this is something that I've posted around the place:
For the record, there are also some rather distressing plagiarism issues with Antony, but I'm not going into those (or another large number of other problems, such as his complete misunderstanding of proper training devices and methods) here.There's years worth of reading on Antony and the issues with his work if you're willing to put yourself through it, but the (VERY) brief version would be something like this:
Antony spent some time in what appears to be informal training with someone named Ste (Stephen) Powell, apparently an old/early student of Dennis Bartrum. This seems to have started in 1999. He later went to Japan in the mid-2000's, and as a result of what occured there he started on this whole thing.
Before going to Japan, Antony had some contact with Dennis Bartrum, including training at (most likely) two seminars some time apart. He approached Dennis at some point, and asked Dennis to "confirm" that Antony was a 4th Dan in the Bujinkan (it may be noted that Antony never paid any membership or grading fees in the organisation, claiming that "knowing that [his instructor] was his instructor was good enough"), as his instructor at the time (presumably Ste Powell) was not willing to put him forward for his Godan. Antony has painted this as him being a student of Dennis Bartrums for a decade, which Dennis denies.
When he went to Japan, Antony then apparently asked Hatsumi if he could train for free, as he was paying off his University debt and couldn't afford to train (which does beggar the question, why would you pay to go to Japan to train in a martial art if you couldn't afford to train once you were there? Of course, thinking about it now it makes sense [he was going to get his Shidoshi licence/Godan rank, and nothing else], but it does show the way he thinks about things), offering to be the "dojo b*tch" (his words, censored for context), sweeping, cleaning, in exchange for training. He was told no, so he asked if he could watch the classes, and was told that should be okay. So that is what he spent the majority of his time in Japan doing... watching, not training (interestingly, that was also the pattern he followed in England, asking to come and watch classes, not actually train in them...).
Now, if we follow Antony's explaination of things, he was "disgusted" that the dojo was not filled with "fit, hard, tough warriors", instead it had, frankly, rather average people, of average sizes, and no hugely impressive Schwarzenegers filling the room. He started to get rather disillusioned then (and if I'm reading into his mentality there, he basically went in with a whole bunch of movie fantasy [from the wizened Oriental master teaching the dedicated student for no financial benefit or cost, to his expectation that the school would be filled with macho He-Men], and that illusion is what got shattered.... and he really didn't know how to deal with it), and that's where things really started to get odd.
Antony says he got a young lady to write out a very politely phrased letter to Hatsumi, saying, in essence, that Hatsumi was a joke, the Bujinkan was a joke, that all grades should be abolished, and Hatsumi should do things Antony's way. It may be prudent to note that at this point (2004/5), Antony had been training informally (not a member of the organisation), and from all accounts sporadically (watching more than training) for all of 5 years (his subsequent attacks on the Bujinkan have shown a desperate lack of understanding of what the Bujinkan is, what it contains, and much more, to the point that he constantly seemed to equate the entire Bujinkan syllabus with Togakure Ryu Ninjutsu, needing to ask on his facebook page for information on the non-Ninjutsu traditions, thinking that anything shown in the Bujinkan is claimed to be Togakure Ryu, and so on). The letter also demanded that Hatsumi meet with Antony to discuss his (Antony's) ideas and their implementation at the next training session (the following Tuesday). Antony's take on that is that he was given the cold shoulder by everyone, George Ohashi shoved a brochure in his hand which explained the problems gaijin have understanding Japanese culture and arts, and Antony's translator urged him to leave, as she "was Japanese, and could tell that things weren't good" (hmm, so Antony was offended that he was handed a document explaining the issues understanding Japanese culture, but he needed someone who was Japanese [and that was the qualification he gave] to explain to him that his completely offensive and arrogant letter was not recieved warmly? Perhaps if he had read the brochure that George had handed him....).
Next is my favourite bit. Antony then says he went away, and set fire to his gi, his belt, and all his Bujinkan certification (which would be what, exactly? Remember, even during his time in Japan, Antony states that he never paid any membership or grading fees for the Bujinkan whatsoever... so where do these Bujinkan certificates come from?). A year later, he was back in Japan, this time he says he was training with the Genbukan (so far the only evidence that has come forward is an annecdote about meeting Tanemura in his office, and having Tanemura sign a copy of Ninpo Secrets, as well as an allusion to Tanemura "threatening to cut (Antony's) head off" for some form of slight, from memory involving a bow), and he recieved a call from Dennis (who had heard that Antony was in Japan, and remembered him from the few seminars), who asked if he wanted to join Dennis at the Hombu. Antony explained that he'd need to ask George Ohashi if it was okay, did so, and came along. Dennis was unaware of anything untoward, or of Antony's supposed Genbukan training at this time. During the session, Antony remembers Hatsumi using Dennis as his Uke for the night, and at one point holding Dennis in position (painfully!), and staring daggers through Antony. His recollection of this is that every pair of eyes in the room turned to Antony, wondering who he was, and what he had done to deserve such attention! It should be noted that this is consistent with Antony's need for attention, whether good or bad, and his desire to make it, or imagine it wherever possible. For the record, Dennis' memory of that day was rather different... he basically remembers Hatsumi doing a lot of work on taking balance, but that nothing out of the ordinary happened, and there was no "moment where everyone looked at Antony".
Over the next two years, Antony set up his own martial arts school, known as the Dignity of Flying Birds, teaching what he learnt as Amatsu Taijutsu (Bujinkan with an emphasis on Amatsu Tatara, which Dennis Bartrum teaches, rather different to what may be called "mainstream" Bujinkan), and started producing books. One of the early ones was called "To Stand on a Stone", which is a narrative which explores 50 key principles inherrant in all martial arts, regardless of style. He first started peddling this tome to Western Martial Arts practitioners, particularly those practicising edged weapon work (HEMA). He approached them with the stated intent of using the book to fund his thesis on medieval martial arts (Western). He claimed to have a new way of approaching Tallhoffer swordsmanship, and was rather quickly and soundly told that he was rather ignorant of far too much to really have anything to offer there.
Next he took the book to the Ninjutsu community, saying that this book was based on his Amatsu (Bujinkan) Taijutsu training, and really started to hit his stride. He did try changing again at one point to explain to karate practitioners that the book was really about how to approach karate training (he trained for a couple of years before he was 10, and earnt a green belt.... according to his more consistent versions, that is), but was quickly laughed out of there as well. So he came back to Ninjutsu. Other books he wrote include one on Hanzo Hattori that he admitted to "researching" entirely online... and included such errors as stating that the name "Hanzo" was a title, not a name (as it was passed down in the family), completely missing the reason he was called Hanzo the Spear, and more. In short, it showed no real ability to research, especially independantly, no ability to cross-reference, no understanding of the history of Japan or it's culture, no real understanding even of naming conventions, and far more.
He then really got focused on Ninjutsu, starting with his "Shinobi Soldiers" book, website, and you-tube channel. In this he started to look at the history of the "ninja", and this is where the idea of "ninjutsu is not a martial art" started to take shape. In short, Antony's take on martial arts is very limited, to say the least (and that is despite being given broader definitions by people far more experienced, especially in Japanese martial arts, than himself), with him once stating in a video that martial arts are "what most people think of, the hitting and kicking" (while at the same time saying that people need to move beyond their common imaginings.... yet he was unable to do that himself). Add to that his habit of using a single source, or only confirmatory sources to reference and give him his ideas, and that leads to a very limited understanding of a rather broad topic. He basically got his entire understanding of what he classified as "ninjutsu" from a short interview with Otake Risuke of the Tenshinsho Den Katori Shinto Ryu, in which the former Head Instructor gave Antony a copy of the articles he had written on TSKSR's ninjutsu section for a Japanese magazine so Antony could publish it with his Shoninki translation. Of course, the problem is that the Katori version of ninjutsu is more anti-ninjutsu, and Otake Sensei's book on his Ryu specifically states that some things considered ninjutsu in other traditions are not in his (showing differences in definitions between systems, which Antony refused to acknowledge or understand). But, suffice to say that if it didn't fit in with the Katori form of ninjutsu, according to Antony it wasn't ninjutsu... and the Katori version of ninjutsu is not their combative waza, as they cover that in the rest of the curriculum.
When it then came out that Antony was "translating" the Shoniki (and yes, that was the original claim, not Yoshie Minami, but that Antony was 'the translator of the Shoninki'... that later changed to 'the author of True Path of the Ninja'), the concerns about his ability to translate an Old Japanese document (as in written in a form not readable by modern Japanese people unless they have learnt it specifically), especially if, as it turned out, he couldn't pronounce a single word, read a modern newspaper, or even count properly. As time went on, he introduced a number of other members, most importantly Yoshie, although he never addressed her level of English, her understanding of the specific jargon and technical terminology, her ability to read Old Japanese, or anything else relevant to her being able to translate, other than to accuse anyone who asked of slurring her ability to understand Japanese. Another he introduced was a man he describes as Japan's greatest Ninja historian, a man sought out by TV shows from all around the world, a Prof. Nakashima. This was Nakashima Atsumi, the somewhat controversial head of a reconstructed Ryu-ha (the Katayama Hoki Ryu... he gained possession of some documents, and went to some members of the family [who had never practiced the art] and asked if he could revive it and become the new Soke...), who had translated the Shoninki from Old Japanese to modern Japanese a decade or so earlier. It is this version that formed the basis of Antony's version (along with one or two others, according to Antony). Sufficient to say that no-one other than Antony has ever described Nakashima as "the greatest Ninja historian in Japan", let alone as a credited one at all.
Throughout Antony's discussions and appearances on another forum, as well as with personal interactions with a number of members (including myself), Antony constantly demonstrated limited understanding of context, culture, Japan, martial arts, and far more, to the point where he would argue small details (the definition of the term "heiho", for instance, where he again took the definition from a single source, and refused to change his mind despite being given multiple contemporary references [other Ryu-ha from the same time as his source document, as well as before it and after it]). He gets an idea in his head, and stretches any link he can find until it gets to the point where it may possibly work, no matter how far he needs to stretch it in the first place. And if something (another source) goes against the way he sees things, he ignores it. He did this multiple times, even when I provided him with material that supported some of his ideas(?). When it came to his "translation", it was shown to be more of Antony putting forth his ideas and interpretations of what he wants the Shoninki to say, with no real way to discern what is his imagining or take on things, and what is actually written in the text itself. If you're buying the Shoninki, to my mind, it's nice to know which parts of the book are actually the Shoninki, not the imaginings of someone like Antony.
At present, his aim seems to be the ever-popular "let's all be friends so long as you follow what I say" plan. He's grabbing onto anyone that will follow him, no matter how ridiculous their claims are, and those with clearly fraudulant claims are grabbing onto him for the image of credibility (actual authentic historical documents! We use them, so we must be real, even if the founder couldn't find Japan on a map of, well, Japan!). This has seen him teaming up with Christa Jacobson, Choson Ninja, and a few other, uh, interesting people. He is trying to dictate how a class (in ninjutsu, not martial arts...) should be held, designing uniforms for everyone to wear, and saying that if your group is a part of his "Ichigun Ichimi" group, then you'll be far more legitimate than those people from Japan, what do they know?
This was, believe it or not, incredibly brief and missed out on quite a bit, including some very major aspects of Antony's personality, but it should be enough to get you started on an idea of where Antony is really coming from. For the record, in terms of qualifications, Antony has degrees in Theoretical Archaeology and History (Western). There is no qualification even close to resembling something that lends his work credence, no matter how much he tries to link them. Oh, and he'll say that he doesn't want to be seen as an "expert", but his behaviours go completely against that... and behaviours show the truth far more than words, honestly.
This is really just to show you that there is no governing body at all, Antony has gained somewhat of a following, mostly with disillusioned former X-Kan (Bujinkan, Genbukan etc) members, and so on. His approach engenders an impression of authority, although his actual qualifications are completely non-existant.
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But you are right, nothing will stop people from taking him at face value. Confidence, intimidation, preying on the insecure, twisting the english language and doing a superb job of 'gaslighting' those that question him make him 'look' legitimate. Heather swore if she'd known even half of what she knows now, there wouldn't have been a marriage; I believe that. What she was defending was that illusion of power and competence and being 'chosen' by someone so 'gifted in the arts'. He is VERY convincing. You know how long I actually thought his visits to see a local gay nightclub owner in NC for hours, bringing back $200 each time, REALLY were secret Yakuza meetings and that he was head of some 'special ops' team for local Japanese mafia? We were in Winston-Salem, NC; a place where I have never actually seen an asian person 'in the wild' (though I think there might be a few at the local college). So, as I can look back and admit I was taken in by outlandish stories; I can totally sympathize with her being caught up in lies about years of training, his associations and his knowledge base. He used to wear my military clothes (he's never been in the military) and imply that he did special forces work; being so convincing that an instructor's father at one of the schools I sent him to actually believed him and would seek him out, comparing notes with his country's techniques against 'ours'. I think he got a good grounding in SoCom online tactics.
He is very good at video games (SoCom:Navy Seals, Hitman, Metal Gear Solid, a few of his favorites) and very good at memorizing moves, like a dancer. He memorized every move for every kata at one school, from white belt to black belt, in a weekend. He then went back to the head of the school and demanded that since he knew all the moves, he should be tested and given a black belt (this is before he got his first real one in 2005 at Oh's). Master Sang refused. Chris quit. When I pointed out that I didn't think that was a 'legitimate way to get a black belt' and that he shouldn't have even asked, I got accused of having slept with his instructor (who, by the way, I've never even been alone with or met outside of the 'school' functions), because why else would I 'defend him instead of my husband'. If my husband's wrong, I'm NOT going to agree (perhaps I shouldn't marry again if that's a requirement; I like to have my own opinions and think for myself).
He DOES remind me in tactics of the other instructor/historian you mentioned in another post (I'm in post mode and can't see the name...Anthony Cumins?) and he HAS managed to create quite a following while discrediting and destroying anyone who might present a different viewpoint.
My best friend told me "You created this monster." He's right, I should have left him at that gas station on Reynolda Road. I probably should offer the entire martial arts community a blanket apology...
I knew a woman who hated her husband for very good reasons; she truly had been victimized. For years she complained about his treatment of her to all who would listen. Then they got divorced and she continued ranting about how she was treated. He moved thousands of miles away and remarried and she continued her harangues. She'd call his business associates and send letters to his friends, 'warning' them what a bad man he was. He filed police complaints for harassment and she was eventually brought to trial and given a permanent restraining order and ordered to take mental health treatment. She kept up the attacks until he died. Then she went after his widow and her children from a previous marriage - like they had anything to do with it. She would claim she was 'warning' them about him - but he was dead and could no longer victimize anyone. It didn't matter to her.
Now she lives in a nursing home and no one will talk to her. She is forbidden to use the phone, as she has cost her own children their jobs by calling up to harangue them for hours about how terrible their father was, and if they hung up on her, calling their bosses to tell *them* how awful he was. She will eventually pass away, alone, angry, and bitter. Her children love her but no one wants to be near her or have any contact with her.
Don't be her, is my advice.
And that will be all I have to say in this thread. Best of luck to you.
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My BS meter is pinging. A two post entry into MT begins with a character assassination rant?
Something is up here.
"Let he who hath no sword sell his cloak and buy one" Luke 22:36
Brian VanCise wrote an excellent and very relevant blog entry the other day:
What Holds People Back?
I'd also like to refer you to a post by Rory Miller that might be relevant:
Finally, a paraphrase of a quote from Skeeve, in one of Robert Asprin's Myth Adventures books:
You can spend so much time looking at what might happen tomorrow or what happened yesterday that you trip headlong over today.
It is well that war is so terrible -- lest we should grow too fond of it. Robert E. Lee
The four truths: Assaults happen closer, faster, more suddenly, and with more power than most people believe.Rory Miller, Meditations on Violence
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Actually, I am less upset over his lack of credential in martial arts than the fact he seems to have perfected using this 'cover' of his to destroy women's lives, finances, marriages... After I heard from the first wife, I questioned a lot; did I do the right thing, was silence and forgiveness what will heal me? Then I heard from another married woman who'd been taken in by him, then discarded for the next one, then I hear this next one (nearly the same age as my daughters) has been taken in the same way and is now pregnant and divorcing her husband for him. What I am asking on these forums is 'what gives him the legitimacy to run a school in the first place?' I found this forum by searching for the name of the art he made up. I found posts from people who know way more about martial arts than I even want to. I registered and posted because I want the feedback from others.
I am not expecting his school to suffer. He's very convincing and I am only a lowly ex-wife who paid for lots of martial arts training and allowed him to train instead of work (don't get the idea it was hours of physical training, he might have gotten 4 hours a day a few days a week, he's naturally skinny and lives on soft drinks, junk food and cigarettes). I'm not even expecting his current girlfriend to come to her senses. What I WOULD like is for people to question. Question his background, question his lifestyle choices and then with some truth in hand, question if the skill level they see out of students that have trained with him and no one else is enough to overlook all that. For a LOT of people, if it looks even halfway decent and they like him, they'll pay him. The Keys is pretty much a captive audience, lots of military personnel and as long as he keeps his story straight, he can bluff a lot of people, because how many of these guys from base that sign up are going to be stationed there long enough to really care? They go to the next base, get another teacher and move on.
Actually, after this thread (and I AM reading all the replies and links), I may not write any more. I doubt, really, that anyone that attends classes at my husband's school actually reads martial arts forums or checks up on his credentials. It would only help those who are researching schools. But once I have a better understanding (and I'm beginning to) of why he is able to get away with what he's doing, what he's saying and the art of using CIT classes to find girlfriends, then that's all I really wanted in the first place.
Actually, I'm reclaiming my life. I'm not going to let him threaten me any more and I'm going to ask questions and get answers instead of assuming or believing what he told me in the past. The last 6 months have been very 'awakening' and I've had to re-examine my entire existence. Once, I would have agreed that I was obsessing and that it was destroying me. That came mainly from receiving death threats from him and admonitions that I should 'never talk about his martial arts training', implying I would upset some 'fellow yakuza team members'. Fortunately for me, my first ex-husband lives in Japan and has access to excellent information and research sources, who quickly let him know my martial arts ex-husband was 'no one' and I could let it go. The more answers I get, the more at peace I become.
This last time that I walk away, once this thread is done, it would be nice if he'd get on with his life and quit trying to pull me back into it like he keeps doing. Maybe now that he's been made aware I refuse to be intimidated any longer he'll stop with the threats.
The thing I do not understand most here is... Why is he trying to associate with Japanese if he is from TaeKwonDo?
Shouldn't he have secret Korean friends?
"It may seem difficult at first, but everything is difficult at first."
I also attended the Korean Buddhist gatherings on Sunday at the temple in Davie, FL for quite some time and a few of them met my ex during the marriage. I don't know about friends, but I would say he has some 'not so secret' Korean enemies. One thing I didn't realize when I started hanging out at the Korean temple, you don't have to SAY anything. They have eyes. Everywhere. Apparently people saw how he'd treated me in public and at home (my friend used to come over to help me learn Korean) and they communicate with each other. If they get confused, they come ask you questions. The Koreans don't separate themselves by religious lines when it comes to information; Christian or Buddhist, information spreads faster than the Australian bush telegraph...
From the sounds of it, this guy has a lot problems. Maybe it's not my place, but aren't we getting a little close to fraudbusting in this thread? At what point are we crossing the line?
Heaven lies under the sword.
This issue isn't whether or not he's a fraud; he is. The issue isn't whether or not he's a morally sound, tax paying citizen, he's not. The issue is that somehow, he has managed to do something, in such a way, that he now claims to have his own art, in something Japanese with no verifiable 'Japanese' training that allows him to take advantage of people.
So really, replies that let me know how someone with little to no experience can do this are helpful. Is it because his friend Phillip let him lie on the resume he puts in student packs (don't know if it's online, I hardly ever look at his page, I use it when I need his address to tell creditors that call)? Is that why he went back and put that he got a 2nd degree black belt in 2002 when he didn't meet the guy until after we moved, which would have been after October 2004? I'm wanting to understand the what AND the why. Can I make up an art myself and go off and make my own school? Or do I have to have someone halfway legitimate sign off on something? THESE are the kinds of things I want to know. I have been lied to for SO long, I want to know the TRUTH.
So tell me the truth, what do you have to do to have a martial arts school? What certifications do you have to have? Do you have to prove anything to anyone? Can I go out and start a school like some people start their own religions? I figure there are enough people on here that have trained and that train others, even school owners, that someone must have a clue.
Sadly enough, what I seem to be reading is that NO, you don't need anything but a charming, charismatic personality and some money and you too can be the next ninja master....