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Bob Hubbard
06-14-2007, 01:26 PM
I am a fool.
By Bob Hubbard


Over the years, I've bought into the fantasy.
What fantasy?
The one that says that martial arts training is a path to self improvement, personal discovery and hopefully enlightenment.

I've spent the reasoning years of my life, 30+ of them believing that one trained in the arts to learn such things as discipline, honor, integrity, self control and maturity. I've had instructors push those very ideas as core components to their arts, and I foolishly believed them.

I have stood on their floors, and said those words myself..and I believe them. I thought they meant something, for otherwise we would not have said them.

I've read biographies on ancient warriors who in their later years gave up their swords for paint brushes, and who wrote classic works studied today in the highest levels of business, and I believed.

My mother, who while not a martial artist was still a warrior in her own way taught me manners. To say things like "thank you", and "please" and "you are welcome". She taught me to not interrupt conversations, to wait my turn, to be polite and respectful of my elders. She taught me that kindness was more powerful than meanness.
She too was a fool, and I, her student.

Over the years, I have had many mentors. People who insisted that honesty was the best policy. That thinking for yourself was important. That honor, honesty, valor, integrity, politeness and more were not just words, but were traits to be developed and admired.

That you can get everything you want in life, if you just help enough others get what they want.

Fools, all of them, I see now.

Why should I treat people with anything but contempt? Conversations aren't possible today without profanity and insults unless you are weak. Success goes to the arrogant, the aggressive, the bully, and those who buy into the fantasy are beneath them. Hiding behind a keyboard makes one a man!

That is what it really is about isn't it?

No, I bought into it all.

And I was a fool.

But.....

Did you ever notice......

....The Fool.....he is laughing.

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Bob Hubbard is an administrator of the popular martial arts sites MartialTalk.com (http://martialtalk.com/) and KenpoTalk.com (http://kenpotalk.com/). He is president of SilverStar WebDesigns inc., a web site design and hosting company specializing in affordable solutions for martial artists as well as a professional photographer. More of Bob's articles can be found at rustaz.net (http://rustaz.net/). Please contact Bob if you would like him to review your martial arts product.

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kidswarrior
06-14-2007, 01:53 PM
:lfao: Great piece, Bob.

shesulsa
06-14-2007, 01:57 PM
As we treat the least of men, so we treat the Christ ... at least that's what he said. And Buddhists would treat an ant the way they would treat their mother - with caring, respect.

I can think of many people who have come into my life and here onto this board ready to do battle for TRUTH. And what is RIGHT. And they do so through insults, profanity, flaming, harassment, lying and other underhanded tactics. This leaves me thinking, "if they're so RIGHT and what they say is TRUE ... why the insecurity? Why the childishness? Boorishness? Why do they need to use tools often attributed to their opinion of the likes of those they wish to squash?

I love this poem by Mother Theresa:
People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

The good you do today will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.

Give the best you have and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, is it between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.
Or, if you're not a spritual person, the version by Dr. Kent M. Keith
The Original Version: The Paradoxical Commandments

by Dr. Kent M. Keith

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway. © 1968, 2001 Kent M. Keith


So why is it important? Why, in our wisest years, do we seek this resolution? Are the words alone supposed to be our false salvation? Are they comforting? Do we find excuses to be weak in these 'commandments'? Is it truly easier to be kind, helpful, good-doing, polite?

Is it more polite to prove one's point that one must be right through argument, force, evidence, size, strength?

Does one-upmanship prove true superiority? I think if we are honest with ourselves, we can say it does not. And that is the truth we must face as our bodies age and our minds ripen. And we must remember to laugh.

Xue Sheng
06-14-2007, 03:22 PM
but yet truth is being surpressed in the name of political correctness or the friendly conversation.

You can state the truth without profanitly and without flaming and still be... well I will stop there.

MA-Caver
06-14-2007, 03:48 PM
"Who's the more foolish? The fool or the fool who follows him?" ~Obi-Wan Kenobi

By that logic... I guess we're all Fools! Glad to be part of the club there Bob.

tellner
06-14-2007, 05:07 PM
It's certainly one way to operate. Under our present social and economic system being a sociopath isn't just functional, it's rewarded with money, power and the admiration of the masses. Caring for others is a luxury or a foolish delusion in the go get 'em atomized world that has been made possible by an oil-based industrial economy. Take your cues from Jagged Orbit (http://www.amazon.com/Jagged-Orbit-John-Brunner/dp/0575070528/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/002-6836329-8184822?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1181851020&sr=8-1) or the Satanic Bible (http://churchofsatan.com/home.html) depending on your preference. The highest goal is the Self, and if martial arts fail to serve the Self or divert resources towards others they are a source of weakness rather than strength.

It's a consistent point of view and one which a very large number believes in no matter what they piously mouth in public. Martial arts types tend to talk a good game about "humility" and defeating the ego. Much or most of it is a sham designed to make the student prostrate himself before the teacher's Ego, reinforce hierarchy and mold everyone to the single vision of the leader or some long-dead founder. The samurai ideal is based on unquestioning obedience to those above and reflexive brutality towards those below.

You're right. If you choose to look at the world through those lenses those are precisely the conclusions which will follow.

Fortunately, there are other ways to live. More on those later...

Last Fearner
06-15-2007, 03:20 AM
Interesting revelation, Bob!



Did you ever notice......

....The Fool.....he is laughing.


"Take your dying with some seriousness, however. Laughing on the way to your execution is not generally understood by less-advanced life-forms, and they'll call you crazy." ~ Richard Back - ILLUSIONS

donald
06-21-2007, 03:12 PM
The Geico Caveman says,"uuhhh what"?

1stJohn1:9

Drac
06-21-2007, 04:19 PM
What fools these mortals be...

LawDog
06-27-2007, 12:19 AM
Be your own man and care not about those who are not.

Mary Chant
08-07-2007, 08:51 PM
You know, it's kind of funny to me. The last post to this thread was over 6 weeks ago, and I see it on the exact day I need a little kick to my backside to dislodge my head. Thank you to all who posted on this thread for reminding me that I have to be the change I want to see.

Mary Chant