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[littleyahiko]

What is the deal with all the people complaining about enough relationship time? Do they not realize that a healthy relationship requires time spent apart as well as time spent together? I haven't had a problem with my relationships in the past complaining about my training, in fact, I met a girl I dated for awhile through martial arts.
As for people I know, there was a woman who quit training because her beau decided he felt threatened by the fact that she was taking martial arts. It's a sad world when someone who is supposed to love you prevents something that not only do you probably love yourself, but empowers you to protect yourself from dangerous situations.


Just my two cents

[littleyahiko]

this thread was supposed to be on questions for the ladies, my first post and I messed it up, oh well, I hope you all will be kind enough to forgive me........this time.

[Bob Hubbard]

I don't understand it myself. Personally, I've encouraged my GF to train as much as she wants.

[KenpoTess]

littleyahiko Welcome to MT :)

no worries ~!

There are so many factors with Relationships and time togetherness.. In my humble opinion, to many people get together for the wrong reasons. If there is a chemistry to begin with this is a good thing but it does have to encompass commonalities also. If the couple doesn't share anything but physical chemistry then right there.. it's not the makings for a good relationship. If there is no true Friendship involved (yeah sounds lame but how many couples can honestly say they are best friends with their other half?) Would you tell your Sig. other Everything you tell your buddies?? This is way important.. But most are fearful to do so.. and when Martial Arts comes into the picture.. that can either be just another wedge such as Football season, golf, hanging out with the guys or for females whatever they like to do with their friends.. If the girlfriend/boyfriend (mate) doesn't want a Thing to do with being involved in something you love.. there's not much to do other than make sure time and attention are given ..
Compromise can be the key to most relationships.. and Maturity, Unselflessness, Friendship
and
actually liking the person you're with :) (This is most important~!!)

Talking is extremely important in any relationship.. not just sitting wondering what's going on.. communicate what you feel.. :)

Just my Ramblings :)

Tess

[clapping_tiger]

I can see how it would get in the way. My schedule used to be Work at the school Mon, Wed, Fri. + My fulltime job(7am-3pm not including overtime), Train after working at the school, and on tues and Thurs work out with my Partner. That left Saturday, which my Wife works 8hrs on Sat and Sunday for our time together. Needless to say, I had to cut some hours at the school somewhere in there.

[KenpoTess]

I hear you Clapping_Tiger~! Seig works Midnights.. He comes home at 8am.. off to bed when I'm getting up.. I get him up for dinner at 5.. we have an hour alone before we leave for the studio.. then home in time for him to shower change and leave for work.. he stays up on Saturdays just so we have a bit of time together.. it's difficult but it does allow us to keep the school open in the evenings :)

Tess

[MartialArtsChic]

You hit it on the head there KenpoTess.

I want to share my world with people, not give it up. You have to find the balance of what you love to do and be with the one you love.

[Ceicei]

Originally posted by KenpoTess
I hear you Clapping_Tiger~! Seig works Midnights.. He comes home at 8am.. off to bed when I'm getting up.. I get him up for dinner at 5.. we have an hour alone before we leave for the studio.. then home in time for him to shower change and leave for work.. he stays up on Saturdays just so we have a bit of time together.. it's difficult but it does allow us to keep the school open in the evenings :)

Tess

But you apparently do teach together at the same time? I get the impression that you and Seig see each other quite a bit for several hours that way--granted, that doesn't allow for "alone time with each other".

- Ceicei

[matt.m]

I see my wife mostly Fri,Sat and Sun. We do spend time together every night for at least a half hour. However, we do talk to each other a few times during the day.

I do believe that time apart is necessary, however excellent communication is more important.

[pstarr]

For a healthy relationship, I think both people need time to themselves. I've had students whose spouses demanded that they spend every free moment together and that's just not a healthy place to be. To me, it would seem that the demanding partner feels inadequate... just my two yen. :erg: