Question for the ladies...

[Nightingale]

Question for the ladies...or gents, if they want to answer too...

do you find that your significant other (husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend or whatever) has issues with you training?

if so, what are they, and how did you deal with them?

[Michelle]

A couple of guys I've gone out with had issues with it, mainly from a time perspective. There was this expectation that I should give up training on certain days if they wanted to do something at the time that conflicted. Once in a while that's okay, but if they get bent on a regular basis of what my priorities are, it's not going to work. Because truly it's a deeper issue than my training when you really look closely at it. Just my opinion.

Michelle

[Cruentus]

Originally posted by Nightingale
Question for the ladies...or gents, if they want to answer too...

do you find that your significant other (husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend or whatever) has issues with you training?

if so, what are they, and how did you deal with them?

Yes, she has some issues. So...I hit her! :hammer:

Then, she hits me! :btg:

LOL :rofl:

Seriously, she does have some issues with it sometimes. Sometimes its the $$. Usually it's spending time away from "our relationship". I deal with it through communication, and trying to find a balance. I may have my martial arts weekends, but I make sure that we have "our" weekends too. Communication and balance is key, I think!

:asian:

[TheLady]

No, my husband doesn't have any issues with my training. He learned early on that it's much easier to send me off to train for 2 hours than it is to put up with me being contrary for a week because I missed training :D

But seriously, he couldn't be any more supportive. He knows he's not always around to protect me and he wants me to be able to take care of myself.

Janice

[Ceicei]

My husband knew before we married that I'm into martial arts. Shortly after we married, I did persuade him to try martial arts (when the dojo back then at the time offered a 2 for 1 deal (two people for the price of 1-person tuition). He did go, but he never really was enthusiastic. It just wasn't "his thing". Once the deal ended, he just didn't want to continue.

Our sons are into martial arts too. Our daughters probably will also when they get older.

The only issue my husband has would be the $$ concerns, especially if budget becomes extremely tight at times.

To resolve that, I just simply signed myself up for the year contract at tax time so I can pay for it with the tax refund $. The contract is actually cheaper than the month-to-month when considering the total one year worth tuition and works great for me. The year contract also includes testing fees and additional private lessons while the "month-to month no contract" method have these as separate expenses.

I kept the kids on the month to month so they can stop if they want to. So far, they show no sign of wanting to stop. In fact, they have become martial arts junkies and want more, more.

My husband doesn't mind the fact that half of the family is into martial arts. He sometimes brags about it and enjoys helping as the "attacker" when we practice at home.

- Ceicei

[Ender]

Originally posted by PAUL
Yes, she has some issues. So...I hit her! :hammer:

Then, she hits me! :btg:

LOL :rofl:

Seriously, she does have some issues with it sometimes. Sometimes its the $$. Usually it's spending time away from "our relationship". I deal with it through communication, and trying to find a balance. I may have my martial arts weekends, but I make sure that we have "our" weekends too. Communication and balance is key, I think!

:asian:

arnisador wrote on 09-12-2003 02:43 AM:
Please use the Womens Self-Defense forum for serious discussions only. We have deleted two of your posts.

-Arnisador
-MT Admin-

no humor in here!!!...so sayeth the gods

[Bob Hubbard]

**sigh**

ok.... This particular forum is for the ladies to discuss the issues surrounding "Womans Self Defense". We apologize to the males who wish to flirt, gawk, solicit, demean, or otherwise act borish for attempting to keep some level of seriousness in the conversation. We sincerly apologize for removing the comments concerning the "Nakked MT chicks" and "nekid sparring!" as we agree that those are required on threads asking the ladies what they want from this forum. I most humbly beseech the lords of testosterone that they forgive me my sensitivity. I will do penence tomorow by being a complete male, being certain to belch, burp and otherwise be "a man".:rolleyes: :shrug:

Is it too much to ask that the ladies set the tone here?


There is a difference between what you quoted, and what we removed.

[arnisador]

Please take discussions of Martialtalk policies to the Support forum.

-Arnisador
-MT Admin-

[Rich Parsons]

Originally posted by Nightingale
Question for the ladies...or gents, if they want to answer too...

do you find that your significant other (husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend or whatever) has issues with you training?

if so, what are they, and how did you deal with them?

Some have thought it was cool.

Some have wondered if I could beat up that guy over there?
(* I for some reason could not find their number after *)

The Ex-wife knew I trained before we were married. She said we needed more quality time. So, I was to give up training. I did. I followed her around and was in the same room touching her or talking to her the whole time during class. I also choose her time with her friends and woudl call her and ask her where she was? and why she was not home since we needed more quality time ;). I was soon training again. One night she said isn't time for class? and before she coudl finish I was down into the basement, had my bag packed, and I was out the door.

I still train, I do not still see her :D

Looking for the right person who either does it also or gets this is not just a hobby, but it is a passion.

Best Regards
:asian: